Black women are seen as nurturers, givers, and healers. Many of us are taught that any form of choosing our selves many times is an act of selfishness. Let me tell you this my love, you’ve heard this before - you can’t pour into anyone from an empty vessel.
How your vessel is refilled is really based on the ways that your pour back into yourself. Yes, people can pour back into us - but I believe that how we love ourselves is how we set the standard for the love that we require from others.
It seems pretty simple to say, but there’s some depth to the feeding, f*cking, and financing that i’m here to elaborate on. I know that every woman is NOT the same, so this is merely just based on what i know to be true from my perspective.
When you find yourself along the journey of spiritual growth and enlightenment - you begin to dismantle your emotions event by event in search of the root. The goal? Liberation, extended grace/forgiveness to self, and lessons learned.
Let’s go deeper.
The journey is never as clear as the destination. But do you quit before you begin, because it seems hard? Do you quit because you fear what’s ahead? Let me stand in the gap as Coach Lex and let you know that quitting only sets you back.
Your interactions with people, how you made others feel when you walked into a room, what messages you radiated. These are the things that will follow you long after you’ve departed.
Your spirit will always tap you on the shoulder when you begin to lose yourself. That is the importance of mindfulness. You gotta find your zen…and maintain it unconditionally. You owe it to yourself to not allow just any and everything to cause you to be reactive.
Do you ever go to a family function and the first thing a person says to you is something in regards to your physical appearance: weight, clothing, hair, etc? It’s never “How are you feeling today?” “Do you need anything?”
Either I’m not growing.
My growth has gone unnoticed.
Or
There is no room for me to grow.
Whichever it is. It’s time for me to go.
Mental heath is too damn taboo in the black community, Far too many people think that anything dealing with mental health is solely association with “crazy people”. We’re all crazy in some capacity tbh.
It’s time we break that taboo!
